8 Signs That Say You're In A One-Sided Relationship - The Minds Journal
An expert explains the psychology behind a one-sided relationship, including how to tell if you're in one. The good old saying that "love is blind" stands true to its word in many cases, one of them being, a one-sided relationship. You might as well. One way relationships - when one person is putting more effort into the relationship than the other!.
You two have accepted each other in your life for certain reasons, promised to be with each other so that none of you feels alone anymore. Things had been quite well initially, but now it feels as if your definition of being in a relationship doesn't match with your partner's. Now, you've started to feel as if you are in a one-sided relationship, but you often feel like shunning those thoughts because you don't want to come across as a possessive, clingy, and demanding partner.
But, seriously, are you really demanding too much?
The following section will clarify the same. Not that you want your partner to promise you the moon and stars, or never let a tear roll off from your eyes, but at least you should be confident of this relationship.
I am in a one-sided relationship - by John Grey, PhD
Your expectations are realistic if all you want your partner to do is spend some quality time with 'You'. If you feel more close to your colleague, or your roommate, than your partner, this relationship isn't taking quite the right route. You are the one who initiates conversations and plans You know for a fact that if it is not you who initiates a conversation, your partner wouldn't bother for days to keep in touch with you!
Also, if you don't make plans for outings and meeting up, your partner will never ever take the initiative. Your mind keeps on telling you that your love doesn't care for you, but your heart keeps on shunning these thoughts, and you have now ended up accepting that this is how it is going to be.
10 Undeniable Signs That You're in a One-Sided Relationship
Remind yourself time and again and the "Two" of you are in a relationship, and it takes two not one to keep it lasting in the long run. You don't come off as a priority, rather an obligation Love is the priority of life, in fact, it is more important than life itself, such has been indicated in the innumerable epic novels and religious texts of this world. But in your case, it seems as if you aren't a priority at all, in fact, you are someone who comes into the picture when everyone else is too busy.
It feels as if you're taking an appointment from your partner.
But, when your partner makes a plan, you have to keep the other things aside. How is that fair? Your partner doesn't know what's happening in your life, doesn't even care!
Your partner doesn't know even half of the things happening in your life. In fact, your dog knows more. In fact, we have seen many cases where the indifferent partner ends up accusing the other partner to be too demanding, or too dependent!
Well, we tell you it's not being too dependent or weak, it is being in touch with the one person you love. You don't expect your partner to be with you physically at the time, but if he or she considers listening to your issues a sign of dependency, or, if you have to think twice before calling your partner during times when you wish to share a good news too, then it is clear that your partner isn't worth being a partner after all. Your loving gestures are hardly reciprocated You're the only reason why the element of "love" lies in this relationship.
It is you who ensures to do something thoughtful and lovingly for your partner. Not that you do things for your love because you expect something in return, but still, you hardly ever get any kind of appreciation for your efforts. In fact, your partner makes you feel as if it is your duty to do so.
You don't feel like a normal happy couple Being in a relationship is something we tend to look forward too as soon as we understand the meaning of this union. Even before we have finally met our partner, we tend to create images in our heads, imagine the things we would do together, the loving gestures that we will bestow on our partner.
Having read or seen a zillion love stories in books and movies, we sort of create a romantic haven in our minds.
But as we grow, from one relationship to the other, we realize that it takes a lot of reality to sink in, to make it a genuine, practical, and real union. But, what you're going through isn't even close to the minimalistic expectations you imagined in your normal happy union.
You feel sort of confused, unhappy, empty in this relationship. Not something that fits in your idea of happiness and love. You hardly have a social life as a couple So, you guys are dating This is only one of many possible examples. The example is really to show that where on one level, you may rightfully blame your partner for what is going on — on another level youyourself, may be adding your contribution to that very pattern you dislike.
It is difficult to see ones own personality patterns at work. Most of us tend to look at the other person as the source of the problem.
I feel like my relationship is one-sided
It actually empowers you to look at your own input into the situation. You also need to confront yourself and do serious self-examination and soul searching to discover what it is that YOU need to learn and improve in this situation. And there are actual risks involved.
Like rocking the boat. And he risks finding out that despite his most mature effort to invite her to improve the relationship — in a way that would clearly benefit both of them i. From the outside, we could see this is a risk worth taking. If he finds out the worse, then so be it. At least now he will have a very clear picture from which he can make a much clearer choice. But there is an even more important reason for him to take that risk.
Things that could improve his ability to get what he wants in this relationship. Or if that failed, he would have the ability to make sure his next relationship did not fail from this same pattern. This is true for each of us. In order to ever have a successful longterm happy relationship, we need to wake up to our own patterns and learn new, more healthy and constructive patterns.7 Signs You’re in a One-Sided Relationship
The upsets that occur in an intimate relationship are our wake-up calls. They let us know exactly what we need to work on in ourselves. So before you throw in the towel, I suggest you take a moment to look at the relationship from this slightly broader viewpoint. See the bigger picture of the two of you, and spend some time examining what your particular role is in the way things are.
Look to what you, yourself, might need to change in your behavior in order to move things in the direction your heart truly wants.