How Men From Different Countries Hit on Women in Clubs | Travel à la Tendelle
Oct 27, These are my impressions of how men flirt from different countries of the world, Every man in the Brazilian clubbing jungle is trying to kiss a girl. (Bro, how is this my problem?) and when you say no to them, they don't just leave like They are ones to approach you and ask “can I dance with you?. Sep 14, He started to kiss me back, and then stopped. “We shouldn't do this,” he said. “I should leave.” After a few ambivalent minutes, he made his way. Jul 16, “when should you kiss her” is easily the most common dating question I get. Oh Jesus, I'll never date in this town again, I DON'T WANT TO some ugly sweaty dude was flirting with your date five minutes before you made you just finished dancing to an awesome song, something – pull her in for a hug.
But I now do it once in a while instead of every other day, so this is a pretty big change for me. Second, I wish to be clear that bachata remains both my favorite Afro-Latin music and my favorite Afro-Latin dance well, mambo may be tied for first these days.
From the spiciest traditional to the slowest and most lyrical remix, I enjoy it all. I think that this has a lot to do with rapid growth in the community, and how this growth has happened. This rapid growth is associated with several things: I do not mean to say that sensual bachata is entirely to blame for this — nor the instructors of sensualism — as it and they are not.
The growth of congresses and performance parts of the culture, for example, are very much related to the rise of sensual bachata. People often complain about the appropriation of sensual bachata and the like.
I enjoy the movements, when executed well. Plain and simple — they are often sexual. The leaders I dance with would be happy to attest to both of those things. Think of all the famous couples you know of. You could make similar arguments of salsa zouk and kizomba [though not swing] — but I would argue that bachata has accelerated its demand for sexiness in recent years. The leaders in the scene are not necesarily to blame. Watching famous sensual bachata videos online is simultaneously for me super boring and pretty off putting.
Consider perhaps going to a workshop by Andrea and Silvia, in which the workshop is basically objectifying sex joke after objectifying sex joke. I respect the effort this takes immensely. Nevertheless, I find the atmosphere that competitions bring to bachata in general to be kind of toxic.
It encourages people to focus on building up their image before building up the quality of their dancing. There was a video I tried to link to to demonstrate why I put traditional in air quotes but it appears to have been taken down, perhaps in light of all of the disparaging comments it elicited in terms of how much it deviated from true traditions.유키스 (U-KISS) - 끼부리지마 (Don't Flirt) Dance Ver. (Mirrored)
I will say this: This has to do with growth of the scene, for one. I also think it has to do with the fact that the new bachata crowd — the sensual crowd — is by and large a fair bit younger than other dance crowds.
The youthful, kind of reckless enthusiasm of bachata parties feels a lot like a frat house to me. So, men also need to be somewhat original to get kisses.
Several guys have tried the line on me: Well, have you ever kissed a Brazilian guy as tall as me? I did not kiss this guy If you say no, they either try to talk you into it and give it another try after a few moments, or they just move on to another girl to get kisses.
A man can kiss a many girls in a night, in fact teenagers like to compete over it. Kissing 20 girls in a night is not unheard of. One interesting by-product from this culture in my opinion is that Brazilian guys are exceptionally thick-skinned and can handle rejection extremely well in life. Oh well, onto the next country… Argentinean Argentinean men are aggressive and persistent, more so than Brazilians.
Leaving the Chilean kind of confused. I just was not impressed. But I will say one thing: Forget getting drinks from them. Happened to me only once in my year of living in Spain, from a very very drunk guy that kept buying me drinks.
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My highlight of Spanish stinginess experience is when I went to a nightclub in Berlin and was approached by a Spanish guy from Valencia, who asked if I wanted to get a drink. When we got to the bar and ordered, he asked me if I have 3 euros because he ran out of money.
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And he later tried to kiss me and take me home. I expected the culture, architecture, and men to be like the United States.
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After all, we do have similar cultures and speak the same language. All were chatting with me in a friendly, non-sketchy way, sounding and acting like perfect gentlemen. I was hit on by white, Indian, and black British men and all were like that where all the Asians at? In Fabric, this Londoner started talking to me, and ended up buying me a lot of drinks. Which was a welcomed surprise after living in Barcelona for half a year see my above note about Spaniards.
Given the fact that drinks in London were so expensive, the drinks were much appreciated. After about four hours of hanging out with him and his friends, the guy did try to kiss me, and I told him I just wanted to be friends. So, I like British men.