An INTJ friend of mine just became official with an ESFP. Both are confirmed. I think they're a cute couple and they seem to work pretty well. And what to do if you're in a relationship with one? Follow these tips to overcome the natural difficulties. Most INTJ ESFP relationships are characterized by the. Here's a little background from me: We're young, I'm 19, he's We're in college. We plan on working very soon. We've been friends for a year.
Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self.
Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense. The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions.
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Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler.
Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict.
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Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated. Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship. Judging-Perceiving Joys Judgers enjoy making decisions for the relationship while Perceivers are happy just to let Judgers do so.
Perceivers are happy to go with the flow according to the Judger's opinions, and they are generally okay with most casual decisions. Because of their organized and scheduled nature, Judgers bring a stability and order to the otherwise messy and spontaneous lives of Perceivers - something that the Perceivers greatly appreciate.
Perceivers, on the other hand, help Judgers to lighten up and see the fun side of life, bidding them to be less serious and uptight about everything - something that the Judgers know they need a reminder of. Struggles However, Judgers find Perceivers to be too passive and casual with their indecisiveness - Sometimes this gets on the nerves of Judgers.
Judgers find that Perceivers care little about household organization, something which they value highly.
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Perceivers are likely to mess up the house because they don't like to keep things neat and orderly at least in the Judger's eyes - this of course drives Judgers crazy. Judgers may also find the Perceiver's lack of planning and scheduling to be irritating; they may try to organize the Perceiver's life as a result - this of course, is a mistake and something that Perceivers do not always appreciate.
ESFPs lead busy lives and rush excitedly from one activity to another experiencing life to the fullest. This high level of energy often leads the ESFP to overextend themselves and this can result in running late or forgetting appointments.
Although they appear generally open and expressive they tend to shut away their most private feelings and share them with only a select few. Confrontation makes the ESFP uncomfortable so they tend to avoid insensitive people. They are sympathetic and compassionate and can be disappointed by others because they refuse to see anything but their most positive attributes. Because they rarely apply objective analysis to their decisions, counting solely on their feelings and values to make decisions, ESFPs run the risk of being taken advantage of.MBTI – ESFP in Love and Marriage
They also have a very hard time breaking free of unhealthy relationships. INTJs are also very interested in self-improvement, constantly trying to increased their knowledge and competence. Although somewhat hesitant to try new physical experiences, INTJs are daring intellectually and are able to grasp and analyze complex issues using their excellent critical thinking skills. INTJs tend to operate on an intellectual level and can be quite unaware or surprised at the emotional reactions of others.
They may become so immersed in their own projects that they need to be reminded to nurture their important relationships. INTJs tend to be perfectionists.
Because INTJs are so private, they are hard to get to know and usually prefer to spend their time alone with their ideas or with equally competent colleagues. They do not like to explain themselves or their ideas to those they interpret as being less competent or not genuinely interested. Hard working and determined, INTJs have enviable focus and will not be deterred from their goals.
This admirable determination, however, may result in their being stubborn, inflexible and unable to transition easily from one project to another.